You’ve been flying lately. In many ways you have finally committed to yourself(link) and allowed a lot of long-held, or obsessively held limitations fall to the wayside.
You’ve been challenging yourself with non-violent communication and in some ways you’ve been doing great. In other ways you are still struggling to break through to a greater truth. Don’t be afraid to offend, it will happen, regardless, no matter how careful you are, things that need to be said, that aren’t pretty to say may elicit pain, discomfort, defense…but it will also lead to awareness, truth, trust, change.
And you know…there needs to be a change in the way you communicate and what you allow to be communicated to you. It’s not like you can change what other people say to you…but you can change your reaction to what people say. You can change that by looking at the big picture. You’re human, everyone you communicates with is human, everyone is trying their best, even if their best is currently horrible, it is because they don’t know any better way.
Compassion, understanding, honesty and being open are the only ways to encourage them to see there is a better way. Be honest about how difficult it is, but how important it is for YOU to listen and be honest and be heard, and be open and hopeful and respectful and discerning and forgiving and neutral and accepting of what others say, and how they say it, and what they mean, and what they want to get across…and how what you say, and how you say it, and want to say and what you mean is a constant process, is a growing seed that you’re watering and exposing to the sun and letting it grow as it will.
You took a bold step…telling something that no one wants to hear. That countless others have tried to ignore or just didn’t have the courage to say. Stand by your goal there…the goal was to be honest, to enable change, to express where you stand on the issue…don’t let your words back-track…if you can’t say what you need to say, say nothing. The time will come when it will mull around just enough that it is easy enough to flow from you and float on the wind like a feather…that is the quality of truth. Trust it and allow it grow from you.