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Self-letter

Sep 21 2012

A Quarter Of A Century

“Watch when you wake up that morning you’re going to be like, I’m not taking nobody’s stuff anymore!” Says your older female classmate/new-found friend.

The best part about that statement is your birthday is two weeks away and you’ve already started that mindset. It has been a rocky year from start until now. You witnessed your own family turn into hindrances  for you. You have hurt from pain and scars you thought you’d never have and you have even done some things you thought you’d never do. What has it taught you though? Nobody is going to look out for you and yours more than YOU! These battles have equipped you for all out warfare if you need to, to get to where you are trying to go in life.

I am SO PROUD OF YOU! Ms. Me, you have changed not only your attitude but you have a new look to match it. You are starting to exude confidence and have began to embrace a mind of your own! Yes, you still make mistakes but you know how to live with them! You have finally got the picture: this isn’t your mama’s life, nor your daddy’s life, nor your siblings lives, it’s YOURS!

Last but not least, love may be a desire but love is not your primary focus. I am so glad that you are finally seeing how much your goals mean to you and that love will come when it comes! You may still shed your tears over love lost but you still keep in mind that what is meant to be will be!

Who is this woman I see in the mirror now……….ME!!!

 

-M(R)S. ME

Mar 13 2012

Your pitch will be much stronger with a Beta Waiting List. At least 500. Mostly girls. Why? Because they WILL rule the site. Will you approach potential users one by one? Will you use one user to get two? Will you build the front-end and funnel them? Whatever you decide to do, that list is important. Traction. Traction. Traction.

Feb 29 2012
Aside

I see you. You want to be a great listener, however, remember, this is your first year attempting. You’re trying hard like Will Smith in the first season of The Fresh Prince. ”I would memorize the entire script, then I’d be lipping everybody’s lines while they were talking. When I watch those episodes, it’s disgusting. My performances were horrible.” Shhh … only talk while the other person is talking if  you’re using the Rapid Repeat Technique.

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Feb 22 2012

You get two days to cry (after that…)

Cj 28,

What is happening to you? Your light is dimming. There is a faraway look in your eyes. You are compromising so much of yourself. What happens to doing your best? Do you believe that living a mediocre life is doing your best?

Look at yourself. STOP with the “buts”.

Be silent and just look at yourself. How will you ever meet me if you waste away in depression? What happens to knowing that nothing new can come into your life until you are grateful for that which you already have? What happens to knowing that sometimes you have to be at a particular place before you can get to your destination? You don’t just ARRIVE.

What is that I see? Tears. Ok. CRY. I want you to cry. I am giving you two days. Only two day to just cry. Throw yourself the pity party. Embrace the part of the story that keeps you wallowing in your own sadness like a pig wallowing in mud. After that, the tears are enough. You are just one pitiful woman expecting the world to feel sorry for you. I am giving you two days to cry because after that it is just sad. You are just sad. Look at you sitting there – crying about a problem you just recently attempted to address; wanting the problem to go away as soon as you think it.

Seriously CJ28, seriously?

Harry Potter is for Hollywood my dear. Leave magical things to the big screen. Life’s challenges will never disappear with the flick of a wand.

Answer this question, when you are driving in a downpour – can you see ahead clearly if your windshield wipers are defective? Ok, I thought so too. So why do you think that you will be able to see clearly with all the tears in your eyes. You cannot figure out the answers to the important questions because you have defective wipers in your life. Go and get them fixed.

Now CJ28, this is what I want you to do after day 2. Wipe your eyes and embrace the other side of the story. There is always a positive side to the story. I can’t tell you the answer. It is there and you will figure it out. So, just get those wipers fixed and the answer will come to you.

…and please remember, you are here today so that you can be somewhere else in the future.

Futuristically yours,

Cj40.

Feb 22 2012
Aside

*Michael Jordan fist pump* YES!!! I mean, I knew you were going to be there, in the building, somewhere. But I think purchasing this ticket tells me exactly where you will be in the building. ON THE STAGE, BABY!!! IN THE SPOTLIGHT!!! Because I just know, Har-old, you are not going to just go there and look up to people pitching their own ideas instead of looking down at people pitching your own. How disappointing will that be? Anyway, you have just under 3 months to prepare. Learn from Kevin and his experience. You don’t think you stumbled upon his blog by accident, do you? Watch videos and take notes of Steve Jobs being insanely great in front of audiences. Just mastermind the entire event. I feel pretty confident in you winning over that crowd and getting your idea launched in 48 hours. This will be an early birthday present to yourself. WOOOOO!!! What shyness? Ha!

Feb 6 2012
Aside

Ms. Me you are on your way. Always remember if you can envision where you want to go and how you want to get there you can do it! Keep painting that picture both mentally and physically through the steps you’re taking to reach your goals. I’m so proud of you! Don’t you ever stop for NO ONE!

“I talk like this cuz I can back it up!”-Beyonce, Ego

FY

Mrs. ???

Success Is In The Eye Of The Beholder

Jan 26 2012
Aside

You’re doing your numbers in the fitness center. Even exceeding expectations. However, there’s one habit I need broken . . . stop looking down and checking the numbers on the treadmill’s monitor every 6 seconds! Relaxation courses teach us to imagine ourselves in a relaxing place and looking at the clock in our minds then relaxing for one hour by THAT clock, although, only a few minutes have passed by of . . . “real-time.” This says two things: Your mind is fast. And real-time doesn’t speed up or slow down for no one; it moves at its own pace. Har-old, aren’t you known to march to the beat of your own drum? You and time have too much in common to be enemies. Meditate on that during the next run.

Jan 25 2012
Aside

The thesaurus defines ideal (adjective) as unachievable. That definition was wrote by a mere mortal. Become more than just a man, Har-old. Become legend. Become an ideal, yourself. Devote yourself to the attainment of the object of your purpose. The only way you can achieve this purpose is by becoming your ideal self . . . Har+new. You were looking for a way to change your life. You can’t do THIS alone. That’s why you created me, your ideal self, as something to pursue. But don’t just pursue me, catch up to me, get ahead of me. I am reachable! I am achievable!

Nov 14 2011

“My Grandma Pushes Harder Than That,” Joked Har-old, Laughing As He Fell Out The Window

The view of Har-old’s fall

Dear Har-old,

Maroni, from The Dark Knight:

If you trying to scare somebody, pick a better spot. From this height, a fall wouldn’t kill me.

In Halloween, Dr. Loomis, shoots Michael Myers off of the second-story balcony. When Loomis looks over the balcony, however, only Michael’s body print is found in the dirt.

Har-old, how long will it take you to get back up if I pushed you out your third floor window? Faster than the blink of my eyes as I nervously look for where your body fell. Did you land on your feet??? When others think they caused you great pain, you get pleasure from imagining the look on their faces when they see they haven’t.

Har-old, you have a different operating system from mere mortals. They say, “Never go to bed mad.”  But anger, hatred and pain wakes you up in the morning. When it feels like you’re handcuffed to the bed, how many times have I woke you up with this question, Do you want to be your parents? How many times have you blew your morning breath in my face with an emphatic HELL NAH! No pair of handcuffs can hold you entertaining those thoughts.

Why am I even considering pushing you out the window, to begin with? Because you didn’t get off to the ideal start I wanted you to in the apartment. But then, I thought about it, this is classic Har-old and Har+new: Having something to prove to me. Call me crazy, but, I think you wanted to feel the pain of getting off to a bad start so you could use that to drive you to a strong finish. Hey, that’s just my theory. The good thing about these past 2 weeks is that you were in control. You’re ALWAYS in control. The problem is that you just gave the wrong things power.

You’re a self-genius; they’re not Har-old experts.

FY,

Har+new

P.S. Announcement to FY authors: With the new theme comes new features. We have three different post formats. We’re already familiar with Standard, so, let’s address Aside and Gallery. WordPress defines Aside as brief snippets of text that aren’t quite whole blog posts. Useful for quick thoughts and anecdotes. Translation: Short, sweet and to the point. So, if you’re using this format, you don’t have to Dear or FY your letter, or even include a headline. An example of using this format is reminding yourself of something, quoting, future-self sharing a short story with you, etc. WordPress says a Gallery usually will show a thumbnail from the blog post, as well as an excerpt of what the gallery is about. An example of using this format is your future-self showing you stills (photos) that inspire you, motivate you or energize you. Even pictures OF the future. For this format, also, you don’t have to Dear or FY your letter. Speaking of pictures, if you add one to your letters, I can add it on the featured post carousel. This will be good for when your letter disappears from the Home page that only displays the most recent 26 letters. Get it. Good. I would like to have at least one letter of every author featured, so, if you don’t see yours, you know what to do. Oh … if anyone has a cool header image that will fit in smoothly with the space-ey background, let me know.

P.P.S. 26 ACTIVE authors!!! That’s the goal.

Image by Boxerbob2009 via Flickr
Nov 5 2011

You’re A Changing Canvas

Road trip Bob style

Image by Boxerbob2009 via Flickr

Dear Feather,

Its time to take some chances. I give you permission from this point on to be a bitch. Really. Say what you want to say, say what you feel, be honest, confront, confront, confront.

I know that is easier said than done, but you’re not really here to do the easy thing. Practically nothing else in your life has been done the easy way…but you manage to take the easy way out of socializing. You socialize by being polite, quiet, agreeable, respectful. You put all these ideas before your own ideas, thoughts, contributions to conversations. You put everyone’s supposed emotions above your own need to communicate.

And you wonder why very few people know you very well. Maybe you’re being too hard to get… to know. You save your thoughts, ideas, jokes, for the off-chance that you’ll really hit if off with someone. But even if you do, eventually you’ll save some stuff for someone else who will understand you in some other way that your current friends don’t.

Well, there’s a reason you can’t find friends who completely understand you…for one thing, you don’t give them a chance…for another thing, there is no one (human) who can completely understand you. You’re a changing canvas. Your self-portrait is always transforming. You don’t have to represent yourself in your many facets, you can be exactly who you are at that moment, without thinking about rather it reflects who you were yesterday, how someone else sees you, or who you’re going to be the next time you communicate with someone.

No one is perfect, no one is always the same and nothing you do will stop conflicts, disagreements, misunderstandings, miscommunication, and incomplete social transactions from occurring. You simply have to stop filtering yourself. Allow the truth of you to be accessible when you interact with people, and maybe you’ll be able to see the multi-changing layers of people as well.

It is a responsibility. One you have tried to shield yourself from. You are a very empathic and intuitive person, and maybe you feel like you shouldn’t be an authority, you shouldn’t be aware of the things people do and feel. You shouldn’t have to know things that you have this uncanny ability to find out, especially when they’re being hidden. So you decided to try to hide yourself from it… but it just doesn’t do you good, at all. It also doesn’t work. You’ll have to take responsibility for your characteristics, your impact on the people around you, and their impact on you.

You’ll have to allow yourself to be seen as you are, from moment to moment, and that will make you look sad sometimes, silly, ignorant, insensitive, and bitchy… as well as a multitude of other characteristics you like to share. Be empowered in your human nature. Don’t take any shit from anyone who suggests or supports being superwoman. You are allowed to fail miserably, and you should not feel the need to hide that from anyone. Be brave and know that what you’re doing is living, never stopping, never going back, there is no need to hesitate, even when if it might mean someone will get to know how you really feel.

You’re not in competition with anyone, and you can rest assured that being honest is not being rude. You already have a good grasp on speaking respectfully, someone may become upset, but that doesn’t mean you’re being mean or that what you want to say shouldn’t be said. You just have to realize that communication is at least a two way street, if not a four-way intersection. You can’t drive through the intersection and expect to get where you want without paying attention to the others on the road. You can be a defensive driver, and still get where you need to go, in time.

Futuristically Yours,
Flying High!

Oct 25 2011

Never Lose Hope

Dear Ms. Me,

I realize that you have hit a brick wall once again when it comes to your love life. I know it hurts like hell because you thought that by letting someone new in you’d be okay and you thought this person truly might see a future with you since they kept trying before to talk to you. So, I know it was a huge let down to find out that what you saw he did not see. I know you’re heartbroken again and I know your heart has been taking hit after hit not just for the last year but the last three years. It’s okay because you are one pretty damn tough cookie. Always remember your motto stick to the high road no matter what happens keep your head held high, if you have to, cry in privacy, do so but smile every chance you get. Keep love in your heart don’t ever let it turn to hate or bitterness because if you do then that’s what you’ll attract and frankly Ms. Me I don’t want to wake up one day to Mr. Bitter I’m in love with Mr. Right.

Just keep being your self Ms. Me, faults and all, you can’t be anyone else the way you can just be you. Yes you are changing and I know you miss some things about the old you but you’ll love ME, Mrs. Me that is. Why? Because I have learned so many lessons it has helped to shape me. All the heartache you went through pays off in the end I promise. Remember those books you’re going to write? Story lines have to come from somewhere why not use these things to better your future capitalize off your pain. I bet every male that ever screwed you over will feel pretty silly when they see you still made it. But that’s not even your motivation that’s what’s so special about you Ms. Me you really do have a kind heart and though you get kicked you still get back up and offer a glass of milk and a cookie to the very ones that kicked you. One day that kindness will pay off, one day someone will see that and not take advantage of it. One day will come soon enough.

How did you learn patience? Through trials like these, pain always makes you think. You’ve always been a pretty good kid but you have a rebellious streak in you from time to time and you hit brick walls often but its okay those brick walls teach you they don’t break you they MAKE YOU! Better yet they make ME =). In the mean time you better start knocking out some more of that school work Ms. Me cause you still have a book to write next month.

With MUCH LOVE!

FY,

Mrs. Me

Sep 22 2011

Sliding Doors

Dear Lala,

Last night, the two versions of you that exist (in 2031) did something you may find unusual – we met for coffee. This is possible because of a collaboration of Mark Zuckerberg and Bill Gates, with the aid of some crazy book Steve Jobs left in his will. You will probably be surprised to learn that most people do not have two versions of themselves – only the ones who have the most to gain or lose. Most people do very well in their mediocrity, and thus, mediocrity is their only path. However, you are a girl who has always wanted to maximize her options.

The two of us came to the conclusion that I alone should write this letter. We didn’t want to ruin that whole positive, optimistic vibe you’ve got going with Mon’s (pronounced MOAN) tale of struggle, distance, envy of others’ opportunities, and grief of all she got wrong. She got a lot wrong. This is the short list – thinking that the world’s problems were too large for her to tackle and that she wouldn’t connect with the right people at the right time to enact some profound, world-altering, life-affirming change.  She stopped thinking that her words mattered, that her gifts mattered. She stopped making music. She stopped writing. Then, she just stopped having ideas. Mon’s story broke my heart because, although she looks like she lives a decent life, on the inside she is completely, utterly defeated.

So, that leaves me. And I’m having the time of my life. I’ve written books and plays, created television shows, released a few records (yeah, we went back to that) and produced movies. All focused on making the world better and being positive. I have worked extensively as a lawyer and a journalist, and as part of the Innocence Project, I have helped hundreds of wrongfully convicted men and women be vindicated and set free. Two short years ago, I spoke before Congress in a hearing that ultimately got the death penalty abolished in the United States. I’ve won lots of awards, and my work allows me to live quite comfortably, but knowing that no one else will die at the hands of a government that should protect them is my second greatest accomplishment.

My greatest accomplishment is Marshall. He is in the family business of civil rights activism. Four generations strong. As a lawyer and documentary filmmaker, he uses his compassionate heart and razor-sharp vision to make movies that make a difference. He just won an Oscar. I was there, holding his dad’s hand on my left, and his wife’s hand on my right. It was a magical night.

Lala, Mon and I know you have a lot to sort out. You have so many questions about how this all gets accomplished. We want you to remember what your mom told you about faith the size of a mustard seed. Remember that God will not let you see it if He won’t help you be it.

Here’s hoping that you decide to grow up to be me. I’m kind of awesome.

Futuristically Yours,

LaMonique

Aug 31 2011

Take A Leap Of Faith

Dear Trista,

You have it in you to produce extraordinary results, so quit putting yourself second place at the race!!!  People feed off of your careless attitude when you strive to reach your goals, they are your cheerleaders beckoning you to win whilst the haters . . . are haters. If you have them then you must be doing something right.

Take a look at your little brother! He’s in ROTC and you are still back in the college saying that you’re going to join the military because you are waiting on a so-called bachelors degree to be an officer? Bullshit! I call total bullshit whether it’s a good idea or not. You should’ve been willing to take up on the offer when the pie was being served . . .so for now you can get away with that bullshit answer, but later when you have it . . . are you going to take that leap? The leap that will define your whole life and judge you based on your fears. Will this fear be the one that you’ve been dreaming of the whole time you’ve been making plans for it? Or will it be the one to your deathbed praying for more life?

I’d like to think it be your deathbed because there’s no time to waste in this life and you’ve made a decision. People don’t even get that far sometimes, so feel blessed with the presence of your spiritual leader guiding you in the right direction.

YOU WILL SUCCEED and BE GREAT.

Knock ‘em dead today. Get shit done!

FY,

Tris-transformation.

Aug 30 2011

If I Could Just Get Organized!

Dear Har-old,

I ran across this poem by Douglas Malloch while reading Frank Bettger‘s How I Raised Myself From Failure To Success In Selling many years ago. Read it and reread it until you know it by heart. It did something for Frank. It did something for me which means it had to do something for you. So, let it do something for you. You know what that “something” is? That something is self-organization. You have to do a better job at managing Har-old and his time. This letter is continuation of My Butt Itches. Here is Douglas Malloch’s poem:

There may be nothing wrong with you,

The way you live, the work you do,

But I can very plainly see

Exactly what is wrong with me.

It isn’t that I’m indolent

Or dodging duty by intent;

I work as hard as anyone,

And yet I get so little done,

That morning goes, the noon is here,

Before I know, the night is near,

And all around me, I regret

Are things I haven’t finished yet.

If I could just get organized!

I oftentimes have realized

Not all that matters is the man;

The man must also have a plan

With you, there may be nothing wrong,

But here’s my trouble right along;

I do the things that don’t amount

To very much, of no account,

That really seem important though

And let a lot of matters go.

I nibble this, I nibble that,

But never finish what I’m at.

I work as hard as anyone,

And yet, I get so little done,

I’d do so much you’d be surprised,

If I could just get organized!

FY,

Har+new

Aug 29 2011

There’s No Rest For The Wicked

Dear  Trista,

Recently you’ve gotten to your sleepless lawyer mode where everything appears to be typical and right down to the very books. But two books have found their way to you that will change the rest of your life and how you see things . . . forever. The first book called Tapping The Source will teach you how to connect to the universe and slip into the harmony of the ways of our creator because by all means you were created in his/her/ its image so you are perfect anyways. The knowledge that you are sucking up like a sponge I cannot even begin to explain.

The second book called the Celestine Prophecy will teach you how human beings are evolving and your generation is beginning to notice certain things the generations before did not have the capacity to . . . who knows maybe one day you will know the reason why we are on this planet to begin with. While you are on your journey and spiritual conquest I suggest you take it easy today and take care of business in a light motion to where it feels like a breeze underneath your heavenly wings.

Best regards!

FY,

Tris-Transformation

Aug 16 2011

A World Full of Hurt

Dear Trista,

Good morning more like it, an inner fear of rejection and hostility is boiling inside of you … just take it easy, 8 hours isn’t so bad, you’ll be in a world of hurt but so will everyone else. Also, you did the right the thing by calling the authorities last night for all that racket your neighbors put on because Dear Trista you need sleep, In fact when you go home tonight GET SOME SLEEP. The blood test might have to wait another day but that’s okay this job is temporary and so is your fears…I’m here  to guide you, you are not alone on this journey.  Close your eyes … breathe softly … repeat after me … happy mind … peaceful mind … holy mind … dig deep into your soul and awake the inner happiness kept deep within, and bring it forth to shine upon day and get you right where you belong.

Futuristically yours,

-Tris-Transformation.

Aug 15 2011

Back Bone Of Steel

Dear Trista,

Life so far has been a tangled web full of disappointment and clarity, but in order to get through the Halloween woods once more, you must look past the gloomy trail into the gingerbread forest. The job search is hard because you are barely beginning a conquest that will lead you far into success. The employers are bouncing at you because you are their ideal candidate for the brain washed associate realm. Just pick the easiest way to put a smile on your face rather than frown, even if the dollar signs are higher on one side than the other. Get through the day and breathe deep because you survived another minute, and accomplished far more than you’ll ever know.

Futuristically yours,

-Tris-transformation

Aug 15 2011

Overcompensation


James W. Dean Jr. on Citizen Kane

This psychological study of the making of a publishing empire is based on the life of William Randolph Hearst, whose overwhelming drive for business success was based on compensating for his abandonment by his parents.

Patricia Chui on The Social Network

The Social Network starts with a breakup — Mark Zuckerberg’s (Jesse Eisenberg) breakup with his girlfriend Erica Albright (Rooney Mara). In the movie, Erica grows exasperated with Mark’s arrogant attitude and dumps him. This leads to a long night in which Mark gets drunk, blogs vitriolically about Erica and then invents Facemash, a site that lets users rank Harvard women by comparing photos from the college’s dormitory directories (or face books). And this, eventually, sparks his idea for Facebook.

… Zuckerberg invented Facebook to impress/get over his ex-girlfriend …

Overcompensation.

Har-old, for losing Tiera, win with the Yeebizan. Please!

Even if it’s to just get her attention.

Arrrggghhh … you disappointed me. You. She … she was the …

Futuristically yours,

Har+new

P.S. I started this blog to help you. Now I’m thinking about taking it away from you. I’m so disappointed in you!

Aug 10 2011

Can My Violence Conquer Yours?

Joker to Batman in the interrogation room

Don’t talk like one of them, you’re not! Even if you’d like to be. To them, you’re just a freak – like me! They need you right now, but when they don’t … they’ll cast you out. Like a leper. See, their morals, their code: it’s a bad joke. Dropped at the first sign of trouble. They’re only as good as the world allows them to be. I’ll show you. When the chips are down, these, uh… these civilized people, they’ll eat each other. See, I’m not a monster; I’m just ahead of the curve.

Joker to Batman at the end

You see, madness, as you know, is like gravity. All it takes is a little push!

Conversation between Teddy Daniels and the Warden from Shutter Island

Warden: Did you enjoy God’s latest gift?

Teddy Daniels: What?

Warden: God’s gift. The violence (storm).

[Daniels looks at him blankly]

Warden: When I came downstairs in my home, and I saw that tree in my living room, it reached out for me like a divine hand. God loves violence.

Teddy Daniels: I … I hadn’t noticed.

Warden: Sure you have. Why else would there be so much of it? It’s in us. It’s what we are. We wage war, we burn sacrifices, and pillage and plunder and tear at the flesh of our brothers. And why? Because God gave us violence to wage in his honor.

Teddy Daniels: I thought God gave us moral order.

Warden: There’s no moral order as pure as this storm. There’s no moral order at all. There’s just this: can my violence conquer yours?

Teddy Daniels: I’m not violent.

Warden: Yes you are! You’re as violent as they come. I know this, because I’m as violent as they come. If the constraints of society were lifted, and I was all that stood between you and a meal, you would crack my skull with a rock and eat my meaty parts. Wouldn’t you?

End of conversation

Warden: If I was to sink my teeth into your eye right now, would you be able to stop me before I blinded you?

Teddy Daniels: Give it a try.

Warden: That’s the spirit.

Har-old, you are living on the edge. You have only 2 things maintaining your sanity. Only 2 things. Only TWO things … keeping you “Human” Har-old. If you lose both of those things, you will go from “Human” Har-old to “Animal” Har-old. Monday, you created a situation where you could have LOST one of them. And because the other thing is in its development stage, it would have been easy for you to lose that one too, through impatience.

Har-old, I NEED YOU to stay human and create some distance from this growl in your stomach. DO NOT LISTEN TO YOUR STOMACH!

How?

Add more things to the list of things keeping you sane. This can be another entrepreneurial idea, a person, money, a challenge, delivering a message, love, kids, etc.

But these things cannot be futuristic. Why? Because you are STILL impatient. So, only things that you can have RIGHT NOW.

With only 2 things maintaining your sanity, someone doesn’t have to push you off the edge, instead they can just *blow* on you.

Don’t make an impact on the sidewalk; make an impact on the world.

Futuristically yours,

Har+new

Russell Simmons Meditating
Aug 5 2011

My Butt Itches

No matter what happens, don’t move. If you feel like you have to scratch your nose, don’t move. If your ass itches, don’t move. It will go away. Just sit still. And as the stillness begins to settle, things that are happening on the outside become less important. Some thoughts come into your mind, but you’ll begin to realize how insignificant they are. You’ll find the distractions will eventually disappear. The way you’ll make the distractions disappear is by focusing on your breath.

Har-old, have you noticed every time you find that comfortable spot where you can cross your legs, close your eyes and meditate, you itch … somewhere … your nose, your butt, your head?

Sometimes the uncomfortable sensation of the itch takes control of your thoughts and fills your mind with scratching, eventually forcing your hand.

Other times you ignore the uncomfortable sensation by taking possession of your mind with thoughts of comfortable sensations and the itch just disappears.

Okay. It’s obvious which one I prefer. So, here’s the connection …

The only time a distraction is doing some good is when you’re diverting your attention from something worrying and unpleasant to something different or more pleasurable. Only time.

But when you are doing that “pleasurable” and “desirable” thing and you let something of lesser importance or even another interest distract you, you are scratching your skin completely off. Concentrate on ONE thing at a time. Remember: The jack of all trades is seldom good at any.

This is what I want …

Set aside one day (every week on the same day) as self-organization day. Think and plan for several hours on self-organization day. Every hour for the following week should be scheduled. WRITE YOUR SCHEDULE DOWN! I would tell you to allow room for flexibility but this could be a distraction in itself and cause you to drift. So, make your schedule tight!

Self-organization day will increase your thinking ability and doing of things in their order of importance. The day will improve your foresight and raise your planning level. The day will help you save future time and make you look at yourself in disgust for how unorganized you use to be.

That’s not for me! I can’t do that sort of thing-live on a schedule. I wouldn’t be happy.

Well, I’ve got good news for you. You are already living on a schedule. And, if it’s not a planned one, it’s probably a poor one.

Futuristically yours,

Har+new

Aug 1 2011

Reality Plays Catch Up

Let us live our lives as though all our dreams have come true then challenge reality to catch up.

Har-old, you always wanted to learn to write clearly and legibly with your left hand.

Well, why don’t you learn how to do it, but for real this time?

Consistency is key.

I’m issuing a challenge. Will you accept it?

Practice writing with your left hand.

Each day for 30 days, write one full piece of paper left-handed.

“Clearly and legibly? I will need more time,” you say.

No you won’t!

In order to speed the process, I also want you spend time each and everyday imagining you’re writing clearly and legibly at high-speed.

In your mind, your left-handed writing will look better than your right-handed writing. If the reader of this left-handed writing says, “I can’t read this. It’s totally illegible.” I want you to say, “Reality hasn’t caught up with me yet.”

Futuristically yours,

Har+new

P.S. Har-old, you can write out the letters here. Start with this one.

Jul 30 2011

I Took Your Little Plan And Turned It On Itself

Ledger’s Joker said,

I just did what I do best. I took your little plan and turned it on itself. Look what I did to this city with a few drums of gas and a couple of bullets … hmmm? You kn’ wha’ … you know what I noticed? Nobody panics when things go “according to plan.” Even if the plan is horrifying! If, tomorrow, I tell the press that, like, a gang-banger would get shot, or a truck load of soldiers will be blowing up, nobody panics, because it’s all “part of the plan.” But when I say that one little old mayor will die … well then EVERYONE LOSES THEIR MINDS!

Jim Rohn said,

If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.

This is the connection I’ve made …

Har-old, the only plan you will EVER need in life is the plan they have for you. The not much plan. And the little they do have planned for you is in their favor and to their advantage. So, make them panic by showing them things don’t always go “according to plan.” Your plan is their plan turned on itself. This is how you consolidate everyone’s plan for you, by simply turning it on itself, doing the exact opposite of what is expected. You need not waste anymore time making your own plans; people have already designed your life plans. Therefore, by not having a plan, you have a plan … every plan.

How do you find out the plans others have for you? Discovering where they resist you. The “change.” They expect for you to force yourself on them; it’s all “part of the plan.” Remember: Children and other willful people enjoy doing the opposite of what you tell them. This is why you always advocate the opposite of what you really want.

Once you discover what is “according to plan,” what makes one lose their mind and where people resist you, you will be at genius level planning.

Futuristically yours,

Har+new

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Jul 29 2011

Do I Really Look Like A Guy With A Plan?

Ledger’s Joker said,

Do I really look like a guy with a plan? You know what I am? I’m a dog chasing cars. I wouldn’t know what to do with one if I caught it, you know. I just do things.

Was he telling the truth? Or was he just manipulating Harvey? This is the part where you get confused. Why? Because the things The Joker did in The Dark Knight was so complex and impossible that he HAD … to plan them for months, maybe even years. Well, I’m here to reveal to you that he was telling the truth. The Joker is a mastermind at improvising criminal activities.

I cringe when you waste time planning, over-planning and never doing. So, I’m stepping in to develop chaotic thinking patterns.

  • Lower your level of inhibition which will allow you to plan accordingly with complex and impossible plans.
  • How to lower your level of inhibition? Stop self-reflecting! Har-old, you either over-think and never do, or do then over-think what you’ve just done and think negative results. Cure the former by doing it the moment you start to over-think, no matter if you’re “ready” or not; cure the latter with patience and thought-changing.
  • How to stop self-reflecting? Be a kid again. This will be easy since you have a child-like imagination. Ever heard the phrase, “Children are innocent?” Guess what? They’re not. Children aren’t innocent; they’re powerful. How? As Robert Greene said, “Children may be naïve in many ways, but they often act from an elemental need to gain control over those around them. Children suffer greatly from feeling powerless in the adult world, and they use any means available to get their way.” Children do NOT know the difference between right and wrong. How cute? No! How genius??? When a child makes a “booboo” the parent has to point it out. Why? Because children aren’t hindered by reflection.
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Jul 19 2011

Your Darkest Hour

The world will look up and shout, “SAVE US!” and I’ll look down and whisper, “No!”

Your kid is in the backseat playing with their toy steering wheel. You make them believe every turn, every horn honk and every swerve, they committed. But the truth is … you’re in control.

Next drive, you’re riding alone. As you’re driving, the steering wheel shocks and burns your hand. You immediately take your hands off the steering wheel due to the pain. Just as you try to recover and put your hands back on the steering wheel before you crash into something, you realize the car is driving itself.

How does it feel to not be in control? Huh? How does it feel to be a kid again?

The car drives you to this strange house. But your mind’s eye quickly recognizes it.

The front door and all the windows in the home are wide open. You enter. The door and all the windows slam shut as you step foot in the house.

You twist and turn the knob. The glass windows are unbreakable. You cannot get out.

A voice whispers, “There is only one light switch in the house.”

You take out a box of matches and light one. But you have to shake your hand as the fire burns your finger tips.

You run out of matches fast because the house … is just too damn big.

Now you’re running into things, hitting your shin, reaching out to let your hand guide you.

You rub on the wall high and low trying to find that one light switch.

Crawling and climbing stairs because your legs are out. Sitting in the corner. All you can think about is light-from the sun, from a flashlight, from the day, from a candle, from a match, from a cellphone, whatever!

Why close your eyes and meditate? You’re already in complete darkness.

Hey, hey … look at me. LOOK AT ME!!! YOU ARE NEVER GOING TO FIND THAT SWITCH!

You know why? Because you have looked for it on a wall. The switch is on you. It’s your mind, your brain, your thoughts. Now there’s that light-bulb on the top of your head I’ve been waiting to see, Har-old.

That’s all the light you need.

Grudges and negative thoughts are Living Rent Free In Your Mind. It’s their job to dim and make that bulb flicker.

It’s time you show others this dark side. Most will keep rubbing walls, few will use that bulb on the top of their head. And oh, give them only an hour. When their time is up, you hold secrets flame. That means you think for them, thus adding to your power.

You have three sources of light in the darkness: Your head-bulb, secrets flame and surprisingly your very own eyes because the longer you stay in the darkness, the better your sight becomes.

Futuristically yours,

Har+new