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May 9 2013

Reloaded: OMFG!

I want you to perform a live demo of this letter for your Toastmasters icebreaker.

I want you to perform a live demo of this letter for your Toastmasters icebreaker.

Dear Har-old,

*pacing back and forth, head down, hand on top of head saying “think, Har-old, think! Think, dammit!*

*bumps into someone*

*Har-old slowly looks at figure from shoes to face then goes unconscious*

*Unconscious for 30 minutes*

*Har-old wakes up eyes hurting and hand rubbing head then hears a voice.*

Person : Are you okay?

Har-old : Yeah, I just had a crazy dream I met my …

Person : Here, let me give you a hand.

Har-old : Thanks!

*Har-old slowly looks at figure from toe to head then starts breathing heavy*

Person : Keep calm … and remember intellectuals tend to talk to themselves more frequently but it takes true genius to vividly see yourself as you would like to be while doing so.

Har-old : Oh my God! Do you … do you know who you are?!

Person : *smiles* Of course! I am you … from the future.

Har-old : What … what happen to your leg and arm?

Person : … You! Ha! Remember that famous photograph from Back To The Future of Marty and his siblings?

Har-old : Yeah, his brother was headless in it.

Person : You remember why?

Har-old : Because Marty was doing things in the past that affected the future.

Person : Now you know why I’m here!

Har-old : … Oh my God, you’re gonna give me a sports almanac that tells the future results of every major sporting event so I can become rich?!?! Yessss! *jumps up and down excitedly*

Person : What?! No, no, no! Calm down! I’m hopping around here on 1 foot and you think I’m here to help you?

Har-old : So you’re not here to help me cheat my way through life?

Person : What?! No! I’m here demanding you help me.

Har-old: Huh … how can I help you?

Person : Because you are in control of me. The best way to predict the future is by creating it today. My future life at 46 got off to a great start. billionaire; top 100 companies to work for; 4 many me’s running around trying to fill daddy’s shoes, etc. Then one by one I started to lose it all. I blamed everyone but myself. When I had no one else to blame, that’s only when I looked on the inside and found the problem … you!

Har-old : *looks left and right and mouths* Me?

Person : *shakes head yes* And now I’m at the last stage of what was once a bright future … losing body parts! Yeah … that too!

Har-old : I lost my kids? *look of disgust* What can I do to brighten everything up again? Please! I’ll do anything! Please!

Person: Very well. I will give you one subject a week that you are to give your strict attention to. 13 in all, allowing you to repeat the process 4 times in a year. Each subject is expanded on with a summary that you are to keep with you at all times as a “pocket remainder.”

  1. Time Manager Revolutionary – The time you kill is killing me.
  2. Body Guard - The hungrier one becomes, the clearer one’s mind works.
  3. Artist of Sex Transmutation – If you spent on your work one half the time you dissipate in pursuit of sex, you will never know poverty.
  4. Master of Emotions – A fixed positive response.
  5. Prisoner of Patience– Sit and watch the grass grow.
  6. Master of Appearances – Make your face as malleable as the actor’s.
  7. Fine Decision Maker– Get in the habit of reaching decisions quickly and definitely, and changing them slowly, if at all.
  8. Great Communicator  – A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while, he knows something.
  9. Bookish Applicant - Too often what we read and profess becomes a part of our libraries and our vocabularies, instead of becoming a part of our lives. (You’re wasting your time reading if you’re NOT applying.)
  10. Genius Level Planner – Think and feel beyond the present moment.
  11. Action Figure - DO IT NOW!
  12. Freedom Fighter – Lower level of inhibition.
  13. Master Mind – Success in the higher bracket of achievement is something that can be had only by taking others along with you.

Person : If you successfully complete this list, in one year, I will not only get back what I lost, I will have the ability to never live without it again.

Har-old : I don’t know what to say … thanks Har-old!

Person : Well don’t say that because if you successfully complete this list you will take the old out of your name and put in the new.

Futuristically yours,

Har+new

P.S. Each letter in some way will expand on the subjects and summaries.

Siblings:

May 4 2013

Judge: Find A Job In 30 Days Or You’re Going To Jail

2 year Anniversary

“Nobody wouldn’t hire me so I hired myself,” said 19-year-old Dean Moxley, the Connecticut teen who was facing 2 years behind bars if he didn’t find a job in 30 days. “Day 24 I gave up hope and was so frustrated and just started preparing my mind for prison. I mean, I looked everywhere; online and offline. The string of interviews I did go on went well until I had to be truthful about my situation.”

Moxley was intoxicated and got into a fight that damaged a door at a friend’s house. He was charged with felony assault and vandalism. He was looking at 2 years in jail but made a deal with a public defender and got his charges lowered to misdemeanors. He was put on probation for a year. Since he was unemployed, part of the deal was to have a full-time job, go to AA and counseling at least twice a week. Moxley had to check in with the judge a month later, and if he was still unemployed, it would have violated his probation.

Judge Jon Ambrose said, “I was really impressed. Here’s a young man who could’ve gave up after hearing ‘no’ several times from employers but he let it motivate him to be in that position of power. Isn’t it strange that so often people have to be cut down by failure and defeat before they learn they have minds capable of mastering all of their problems? These past 30 days have been good for his mind. I plan on being a customer and will try to help him get more.”

Moxley started his own errand running company for Seniors and busy people called Back In A Minute. “I always run errands for my grandparents so it just made sense. Then I got all this time on my hands because I was unemployed that people didn’t have who were employed. Those people have to pick the kids up from school, go grocery shopping, go pay a bill, etc. I could do that for them. Despite what my legal matters say about me I am a very trustworthy person.” Moxley said business has picked up to the point he can’t run all the errands by himself and is looking to hire someone. “Not to discriminate or anything, but I hope I run into someone who was as desperate as me a few weeks ago, so I could be the one to say yes to them.”

Instead of being gone for 2 years, Moxley will be Back In A Minute.

Built on top of:

  • A CraigsList Ad

Happy 2 Year Anniversary FY!!!

Feb 28 2013
Aside

There’s a reason there aren’t eyes in the back of your head … so you can see what’s in front of you, so you can look forward to something, because you move forward, not walk backwards. Moon-walking is the only time moving backwards is cool.

There’s a reason your head is on the top of your body … because all actions are first clothed in a thought. Mr. Potato Head can put his ears, eyes, nose, and mouth on different parts of his face but can’t detach the head itself.

Front and Top

Feb 18 2013
Aside

Hold up the mirror. Sell people their ideal self. Appeal to their better selves. Not who they was in the past. Or, who they are now. Sell them their future-self. Motivate them. Push them to greatness. They’re standing over the edge of this mediocre building. You can pull them back by discouraging them and appealing to the basest of their character. Or, you can push them so they can fly to an elevated status. *epic pause* Push ‘em!

Unrealized Ideals

Feb 7 2013
Gallery

Who Are Your Imaginary Counselors? ***New Members***

Uncle Napo

This gallery contains 5 photos.

Dear Har-old, 11 was a full-house; I cut it by 7. No one from the old list survives. Here are your new cabinet members, along with their guides. Futuristically yours, Har+new

Mar 21 2012

Do You!

The heart of your conversation earlier with Ranita:

Har-old-Is there any advice, you being 40, you can offer me being 24? Like, something you wish someone told you at my age?

Ranita- Do you! Get your education. And, don’t worry about them.

Har-old-Who is them?

Ranita-Them is so-called friends, fake people, doubters, girls. Don’t let no one distract you from working on you and your success.

Har-old-I’ll be honest. I am distracted by girls. So, you think I should just stay away from them?

Ranita-No, I didn’t say that. It’s okay to have a little girlfriend or just a friend. But getting settled down and being in a committed relationship, don’t do it. I got married at 19, had 4 kids and wish someone told me this. And now, I’m starting over. You need to focus on your education, getting your degree, and worry about what’s gone make you successful. Being distracted by a relationship is something we all go through. So, you gone have to find a way to take your focus off the other person and become distracted with your own self. You’re a handsome young man, on your own, seem like you got your head on straight. You don’t want to get caught up with these lil’ girls out here. They want your money. The one thing about women is that we will wait on you. No matter how long it takes. So if she’s the right one for you, and wants you to succeed, she will wait. All those people you named, Zuckerberg, Jobs, they didn’t let no one distract them, if they did, they would NOT be where they are now. Do you, baby!

Are you getting it now, son? DO YOU! Grrrrr!!!

FY,

Har+new

P.S. I’m so happy you’re smart enough to see the messages in things. Big or small. You’re a thinker. Losing your technology for a few days did some good.

Mar 15 2012
Video

When People Show You Who They Are, Believe Them!

What does this remind you of?

She told you she was a bitch and you didn’t believe her. PAP! Why would she even bother to tell YOU this? Because she was predicting the future. And you bloody fool, why didn’t you believe her? You don’t trust life. This is an exact reflection of that. You don’t even know yourself yet. So, how you gone put another person BEFORE you and think you KNOW them? Hmmm? Why are you mad at the other person? Why are you blaming the other person? Be mad and put the blame on yourself. Learn to trust life. Learn. To. Trust. Life. This was a life lesson. Like she said, “Do the math and figure it out.” Don’t get PAPPED a 29th time! She isn’t deserving of your love. She won’t fight for you like you fought for her. What does that tell you? And, that’s why you should stop fighting and give up. Quit! Move on. You said your goodbye. Do not be hard-head, now. Cancel that bitch! Believe in Maya Angelou’s poetry. Oprah does. Ha!

FY,

Har+new

P.S. Thanks, appreciation, and love shown to Brook for being a YouTuber and forwarding the message.

P.P.S. This is the first video on FY. About time, huh?

tears1
Feb 22 2012

You get two days to cry (after that…)

Cj 28,

What is happening to you? Your light is dimming. There is a faraway look in your eyes. You are compromising so much of yourself. What happens to doing your best? Do you believe that living a mediocre life is doing your best?

Look at yourself. STOP with the “buts”.

Be silent and just look at yourself. How will you ever meet me if you waste away in depression? What happens to knowing that nothing new can come into your life until you are grateful for that which you already have? What happens to knowing that sometimes you have to be at a particular place before you can get to your destination? You don’t just ARRIVE.

What is that I see? Tears. Ok. CRY. I want you to cry. I am giving you two days. Only two day to just cry. Throw yourself the pity party. Embrace the part of the story that keeps you wallowing in your own sadness like a pig wallowing in mud. After that, the tears are enough. You are just one pitiful woman expecting the world to feel sorry for you. I am giving you two days to cry because after that it is just sad. You are just sad. Look at you sitting there – crying about a problem you just recently attempted to address; wanting the problem to go away as soon as you think it.

Seriously CJ28, seriously?

Harry Potter is for Hollywood my dear. Leave magical things to the big screen. Life’s challenges will never disappear with the flick of a wand.

Answer this question, when you are driving in a downpour – can you see ahead clearly if your windshield wipers are defective? Ok, I thought so too. So why do you think that you will be able to see clearly with all the tears in your eyes. You cannot figure out the answers to the important questions because you have defective wipers in your life. Go and get them fixed.

Now CJ28, this is what I want you to do after day 2. Wipe your eyes and embrace the other side of the story. There is always a positive side to the story. I can’t tell you the answer. It is there and you will figure it out. So, just get those wipers fixed and the answer will come to you.

…and please remember, you are here today so that you can be somewhere else in the future.

Futuristically yours,

Cj40.

Feb 22 2012
Aside

*Michael Jordan fist pump* YES!!! I mean, I knew you were going to be there, in the building, somewhere. But I think purchasing this ticket tells me exactly where you will be in the building. ON THE STAGE, BABY!!! IN THE SPOTLIGHT!!! Because I just know, Har-old, you are not going to just go there and look up to people pitching their own ideas instead of looking down at people pitching your own. How disappointing will that be? Anyway, you have just under 3 months to prepare. Learn from Kevin and his experience. You don’t think you stumbled upon his blog by accident, do you? Watch videos and take notes of Steve Jobs being insanely great in front of audiences. Just mastermind the entire event. I feel pretty confident in you winning over that crowd and getting your idea launched in 48 hours. This will be an early birthday present to yourself. WOOOOO!!! What shyness? Ha!

Jan 25 2012
Aside

The thesaurus defines ideal (adjective) as unachievable. That definition was wrote by a mere mortal. Become more than just a man, Har-old. Become legend. Become an ideal, yourself. Devote yourself to the attainment of the object of your purpose. The only way you can achieve this purpose is by becoming your ideal self . . . Har+new. You were looking for a way to change your life. You can’t do THIS alone. That’s why you created me, your ideal self, as something to pursue. But don’t just pursue me, catch up to me, get ahead of me. I am reachable! I am achievable!

Dec 21 2011
Aside

Every adversity, every failure and every heartache carries with it the seed of an equivalent or a greater benefit.

Hill went on further to say, “Despite the benefits with which we may get from adversities and unpleasant experiences of every nature no one desires to meet with these experiences.”  Time to test Hill’s philosophy. What if you became the one who did desire to meet with such experiences? Har-old, what if you planned your “failures” as a way to gain wisdom? Hmmm? Plan to get caught. Start a fire. Of course!!! #MasterMind

Dec 9 2011

Compliment Question: Were You Raised … ?

This was done with one finger. Best shadow puppet ever or world's ugliest finger?

Dear Mr. Now My Grandmama Ain’t The Only Girl Calling Me Baby,

Compliment Question-expression of praise in the form of a doubt about the truth or validity of something.

Have any girls ask this lately?

Were you raised by your grandparents or was you in a household with both parents?

Good thing you follow-up your answer with a question of your own:

 Yeah, why you ask?

Let’s dig a little deeper into their response of:

Most guys your age are beyond disrespectful; you’re not the stereotypical black male.

I’m not taking anything away from grandma because that would mean giving to someone else and it sure isn’t her daughter. But let’s be honest about something. Grandma was a busy woman. Never home. Always on the go. Always at work. The credit goes to her environment. You was sheltered. Despite running out of fingers and toes to count your brothers and sisters on, you was brought up as an only child, treated as such. Being the only child means a lot of alone time, playing with yourself, and using your imagination to create people you wished were around you. See where I’m going with this?

It doesn’t matter if you were raised by grandparents, both parents, a single parent, an older sibling, etc. Because what it comes down to is parenting yourself. If YOU can not balance YOURSELF with the thought of a mother and the act of a father you will fall like a baby learning to walk. It’s about character, all about character. Building yourself up and knocking down your 101 ft. statue when you become too big for your britches, young man. It’s about being many people to yourself. It’s about your lower-self wanting something, but respectful enough to ask your higher-self for permission, and accepting of no, if that’s the answer.

I know it comes down to parenting yourself because I’ve recently met several troubled young men who grandma has spent more time with them than ours but was NEVER asked that compliment question. You know why? They’re part of the kids-having-kids generation where their mama is old enough to be one and their grandma is young enough to be one. They don’t make grandmas like they use to. You already can see the future and I can tell you the new grandma won’t be nice, will have no wisdom and will be more of a “friend.” This is the future I’m in.

If that same person continue their compliment questioning with the starting, “are you sure … ?” then I KNOW I did a good job raising you. Ha! If you did a good job on yourself, imagine how great of a job you can do on others … your kids. I just thought I tell you this while you have this young age and atypical mind state going on because you won’t get that same compliment question when you’re the “he should know better” age. It’s temporary. And you should study how others look at you and the what is the difference between you and who you’re being compared to.

Pardon the 8-9 day vacation. I’ve been busy traveling the world giving speeches, lecturing and teaching. But I want you to know I will never forget the most important talk I can have and that is the one with you.

Futuristically Yours,

I’m back, baby!

P. S. Although, I haven’t written any new letters my presence is all over the site. Have you read the new About page? Have you checked the Suggestion Box? Have you seen the new Resume? Have you paid attention to how I freaked this theme? Have you checked out the awesome blogs on the blogroll? Do you see the snow falling? Hmmm?

P.P.S. Where are my new authors?!?!

Nov 30 2011
Aside

What does Sunday, 12 am, New Years and most importantly tomorrow have in common? They’re the start! You are a great promoter of these events but a lousy showman. “Wait until tomorrow.” “Wait until the 1st.” “Wait until New Years.” You wait, get off to a bad start, which affects the rest of the show, then begin hyping the next event. What is your obsession with the number one? Hmmm? 2 may not be as straight as 1 but that doesn’t mean you should count yourself out if you get off to a bad start. Mr. The Ending Is Everything, hey, the start is important too. It should be planned, also. Let’s put that jive-turkey November in our rearview mirror and concentrate on the reindeer in headlights. Hmmm? You are NOT watching Psych tonight! You are NOT going to sleep at 10; you are going to sleep at 9. You’re waking that butt up at 4 in the morning and not going back to sleep if you randomly wake up earlier. Hmmm? No more of November’s distractions! A new evil rises!

Oct 24 2011

How To Live Forever

Dear Har-old,

American novelist Chuck Palahniuk said,

We all die. The goal isn’t to live forever, the goal is to create something that will.

When an entrepreneur, an inventor, the mastermind, or just a person in general, dies, they always say WHO they’re survived by. For instance, Steve Jobs:

Jobs is survived by his wife of 20 years, Laurene, and four children, including one from a prior relationship.

The thing I dislike about being survived by a WHO is that person will eventually die themselves. That’s temporary survival. You want staying power. So, Har-old, would you like to know how to truly live forever? Be survived by a WHAT. An idea. A good one. A great one.

Instead of being survived by a WHO, a person with their own mind, be survived by a WHAT, YOUR mind.

You know how they say of someone who’s in la la land:

He’s in his own world. Physically here; mentally there.

Well, let’s reverse that in death da da land: mentally here; physically there. Here is living. There is gone.

The idea is to be survived by your energy.

I use to fear death. Then I discovered the power of my mind and the ideas it could produce. You know what’s so powerful about your ideas? They are instant businesses. It isn’t how fast you can think of a good idea, but rather, how fast this good idea can be a reality existing outside of your mind. And you’re becoming king of that. It is happening NOW.

The lightbulb is not on the top of your head. It’s in your head, genius. Your brain is the lightbulb, Har-old.

Futuristically yours,

Har+new

P.S.  I don’t think I’m done with that drawing. I think I should add upside down lightbulbs.

Oct 5 2011

If You Look Through Hole Of The Doughnut, You Will See The Hot Coffee That Spilled On My Lap

Dear Har-old,

What do you see in the picture to the right?

If you see the doughnut, you see the solution.

If you see the hole only, you see the problem.

As Napoleon Hill said,

The failures see the hole in the doughnut but don’t see the doughnut around the hole.

The successes see the hole also but they see the doughnut around the hole.

If you’re only seeing the hole, it’s time to start buying the creme-filled, Har-old. However, don’t buy ‘em if you’re just gone punch out the hole with fear, doubt and disbelief.

If you can’t see the forest for the trees, just look down at the creme-filled doughnut trail I left you. It will lead you to my neck of the woods. In hindsight, you will kick yourself with the back of your foot. But this is Futuristically Yours, we’re about foresight, so, I want you to think ahead. Here’s what I mean …

Think about all the things you regret and get mad at yourself over but  still continue to do. Now the next time you’re in one of your “trying moments,” right before you give in, imagine you did it, then ask yourself: How do I feel? Obviously, you will not feel good. You don’t have to actually experience it to feel because your imagination is strong enough, kid.

Think first. Think ahead. Always. You’re already parts of me. When Har-old gets angry, it heightens Har+new’s resolve. Think about that!

Futuristically yours,

Har+new

P.S. Check out the début letters of FY’s latest authors: Feather Story, LaMonique and Okbernadette.

Benjamin Franklin
Sep 24 2011

Thirteen-week Plan

Dear Har-old,

In How I Raised Myself From Failure To Success In Selling, Frank Bettger wrote:

I seldom meet anyone who never heard of Franklin’s thirteen-week plan, but I never met anyone who has told me he tried it!

In The Autobiography Of Benjamin Franklin, Franklin wrote:

I hope, therefore, that some of my descendants may follow the example, and reap the benefit.

Har-old, I will update the first-ever letter I wrote you, OMG!, and I will choose the 13 subjects which I feel are necessary or desirable for you to acquire and try to master, and I want you to give a week’s strict attention to each subject successively. In this way, you will be able to go through your entire list in thirteen weeks, and repeat the process four times in a year. Also, each subject will be followed by a brief summary. For instance, Franklin’s second subject was Silence, and his summary was, “Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation.”

I concluded that OMG! letter with a tagline from 43things.com, “Changing your life is hard. Doing it by yourself is harder.”

Here’s the screwed lightbulb (great idea) I had:

FY’s community will also join in on Franklin’s Thirteen-week Plan. They will list and share their thirteen subjects and summaries with you and six others of their choice. Y’all are to agree to the best way to communicate with each other. I prefer exchanging numbers because it’s more instant and direct than Twitter, Facebook or email.

This is how it will work:

Once they’ve shared their list, which will be in the order in which they plan to use it, they will assign seven people who represent the seven days of the week, to text or voicemail their subjects and summaries. This is for the subconscious. Five should be text; two should be voice mails. Har-old, you are not to or the others are not to get out-of-order meaning texting or voicing a person’s third subject during the first week, which is their first subject. Furthermore, you are only to be read or heard from once a week. No more!

At the end of every week you are to update everyone on your progress. This can either be done via a blog post, a text, an email, tweet or even phone conversation. Obviously, you can’t spread yourself to all seven people with a method like the last one-phone conversation-so again, agree on some end of the week method of updating everyone.

Har-old, writing this made me think of Dean Martin‘s Send Me The Pillow You Dream On. Listening to it now. I’m making this the theme song for this letter and the Thirteen-week Plan. Ha!

Futuristically yours,

Har+new

P.S. OMG! is now updated.

P.P.S. Let me know in the comments or through the contact form if you would like to participate.

Sep 15 2011

Wealth At The Push Of A Button

Dear Har-old,

If you were a footer and I always talked to you about my various cars named after different women, would you get upset?

If you were single and I always talked to you about being in this great romance, would you get upset?

If you were in a job that you hated and I always talked to you about doing what I love, would you get upset?

No to all three, right? Instead  you will enjoy it and get inspired by it. And that’s something I always liked about you. You are money conscious, therefore, this will not work on you. However, when I talk to poverty conscious people about my nice cars, about my love life and about my dream job, they get upset. Why? You want to know why? Because I’m pushing their buttons. It’s not about me and my wealth. It’s about them not being okay with wealth, which makes them dislike seeing it flaunted by others.

Dr. Joe Vitale said,

If there’s something in your life that is pushing your hot buttons that is probably an area of a belief that needs to be released.

So, I should only flaunt my wealth in front of money conscious people, right? No!

I LOVE flaunting my wealth in the faces of the poverty conscious. Why? Because I’m trying to get them to realize the button is not external; it’s inside them. It’s their inner hot button. I’m trying to help them dissolve their inner limits. These people have low prosperity IQ’s because they have been miseducated for years by low salary teachers-their parents, the church, their friends, television, their environment. These “students” don’t raise their hand and question any of these common limiting beliefs about money. They just let other people think for them. And the scary part about this is the teachers are teaching and the students are learning at an unconscious level. So, the only way to become aware of these beliefs is acknowledging (writing it down) when someone or something pushes your hot button.

I mean, look at you! You were raised around nothing but poverty conscious people and you never let their penny thoughts rub against your fourth quarter.

The Joker said,

It’s not about money. It’s about sending a message.

And the message the money conscious is sending to the poverty conscious is hidden in their “flaunting of wealth.”

Futuristically yours,

Har+new

Sep 1 2011

Letter Y

Dear Har-old,

Frank Bettger said, “To become enthusiastic-act enthusiastic. Force yourself to act enthusiastic, and you’ll become enthusiastic.” Fortunately, you don’t have to force the act. Natural. Your enthusiasm is so contagious it affects those around you when you let it be an outward expression. Your enthusiasm works constantly within you. I want to see you get mad and pound your fist with excitement. This poem will help with that. This is another poem I ran across in Frank Bettger’s How I Raised Myself From Failure To Success In Selling. Stanley Gettis repeated this poem almost every morning for twenty years. It helped him generate enthusiasm for the day. This poem was written by Herbert Kauffman and has a good title . . .

Victory

You are the man who used to boast

That you’d achieve the uttermost,

Some day.

You merely wished a show,

To demonstrate how much you know

And prove the distance you can go . . . .

Another year we’ve just passed through.

What new ideas came to you?

How many big things did you do?

Time . . . left twelve fresh months in your care

How many of them did you share

With opportunity and dare

Again where you so often missed?

We do not find you on the list of Makers Good.

Explain the fact!

Ah no, ’twas not the chance you lacked!

As usual-you failed to act!

FY,

Har+new

P.S. L stands for loser. The Y is the letter champions resemble when they raise both their arms. Victory baby!

Aug 15 2011

Overcompensation


James W. Dean Jr. on Citizen Kane

This psychological study of the making of a publishing empire is based on the life of William Randolph Hearst, whose overwhelming drive for business success was based on compensating for his abandonment by his parents.

Patricia Chui on The Social Network

The Social Network starts with a breakup — Mark Zuckerberg’s (Jesse Eisenberg) breakup with his girlfriend Erica Albright (Rooney Mara). In the movie, Erica grows exasperated with Mark’s arrogant attitude and dumps him. This leads to a long night in which Mark gets drunk, blogs vitriolically about Erica and then invents Facemash, a site that lets users rank Harvard women by comparing photos from the college’s dormitory directories (or face books). And this, eventually, sparks his idea for Facebook.

… Zuckerberg invented Facebook to impress/get over his ex-girlfriend …

Overcompensation.

Har-old, for losing Tiera, win with the Yeebizan. Please!

Even if it’s to just get her attention.

Arrrggghhh … you disappointed me. You. She … she was the …

Futuristically yours,

Har+new

P.S. I started this blog to help you. Now I’m thinking about taking it away from you. I’m so disappointed in you!

Aug 11 2011

October 22, 2011

Your two fortune cookies from July 22, 2011 …

Linger over dinner discussions this week for needed advice.

Tiera. IHop. Yeebizan. Original plan.

This fortune cookie came true.

Your other fortune cookie …

Remember three months from this date! Your lucky star is shining.

It’s not October 22, 2011 but the progress you’re making tells me this one will come true as well.

Mark your calendar. You’re creating your own luck!

Let’s do this, Har-old.

I love you!

Futuristically yours,

Har+new

P.S. Eat more Chinese!

Aug 10 2011

Death Is Written In Blood On The Mirror

If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.

Just like Steve Jobs, I want this quote to make a strong impression on you.

From now on, every morning, I want you to look in the mirror and ask yourself, “If today was the last day of my life, would I want to do what I’m about to do today?”

But I think this question is better in hindsight than foresight.

So, I want you to ask yourself this, “If yesterday was the last day of my life, am I happy with how I spent it?”

If the answer is “NO!” for 3 consecutive days, you NEED to change something. Something, Har-old. You have to! This is a must.

Apply what I told you in 3 Months To Live.

As I’m writing this to you, I’m listening to some music from your time. It’s this Kanye West song called Drunk And Hot Girls. He just dropped a gem that is proper for this letter:

You only live once; do whatever you like.

Futuristically yours,

Har+new

P.S. Listen to the third story from Steve Jobs Stanford Commencement Speech over and over until you get it. My favorite lines was, “Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” Are you inspired yet?

Jul 19 2011

I Might As Well Eat Grass

 Cj27,

Why are you so burdened with worries?

You worry everyday about whether or not I achieved the goals I set for my life. Only you know and understand that some days my life was as fun as a lazy cow grazing in an empty field. Some days I was so bored with my life, I might as well eat grass. And so, you wonder if I ever escaped the endless routine of my life – investigating complaints that I do not care about or feel the need to care about. I wish I could tell you to stop worrying. I wish I could tell you that everything is great. But I can’t. You see, our destinies are inextricably woven. My fate is tied to yours. Who I am now is dependent on the choices that you make.

I cannot tell you if everything is great or if I achieved all the things you want me to achieve at this age. You will have to see that for yourself when you get a chance to meet me. Never-the-less, I can tell you one thing that I want you to stop doing.

For heaven sakes… STOP PANICKING.

I know you feel a sense of urgency. I know you feel that your life is like an untidy room. You really want it clean but you just don’t know where to start. Stop panicking. Be still and you will hear the voice. Just start cleaning. You start to clean and in no time the room is spotless.

STOP PANICKING.

Do you remember that time when you were sitting in your car at the parking lot and you saw a car reversing straight into your car? All you could hear is a voice screaming in your head. STOP! YOU ARE GOING TO HIT MY CAR. STOP! LOOK AROUND DUMBO. STOP!!! Your hands sweated, your heart pounded and still, the voice in your head screaming loudly and endlessly.

…Then the loud crashing sound of metal crushing into metal and the jerk that silenced the screams in your head.

The answer was so simple. Just honk your horn. However, you didn’t do that. You didn’t hear the answer because you panicked. Sometimes life is like that, the answer is simple but you will never figure it out if you panic. Be still and you will hear the voice…

Just honk your horn.

Futuristically yours,

Cj40.

Jul 2 2011

What You Need…

To my darling, Jennifer

It took me awhile to figure out what I would say to you, how I would write it to you, and why I would do it. Even now I sit here confused as to what exactly I could tell you that would offer you comfort.

I know that you aren’t really religious now, but there is always one line in particular of a church song that no matter how much you try to get out of your head, it still remains.

“You know the depths of my heart, and you love me the same”

Constantly you go over this line in your head and each time it evokes the same feeling, of confusion, hope, longing, pain, and shame.

You don’t believe it’s possible for someone to know all the ins and outs of your mind, body, past, and thoughts. To you it is impossible; it is further to reach than a dream.  But I am here to tell you, even if it was the only thing that I could ever tell you, it would be that this type of feeling, love and expression does exist.

I know the depths of your heart, and I love you the same.

I always have, and I definitely always will because I can’t let you go for more reasons than one.

Quite heavy for our first encounter your thinking, but hey what the hell?  Might as well begin with a bang!

And this may just be the beginning but for forever and always I will be

Futuristically yours,

Vigilant Citizen.

Jun 8 2011

I’m Not Just A Pretty Face …

Dear Har-old,

Actress Candice Bergen said, “Though beauty gives you a weird sense of entitlement, it’s rather frightening and threatening to have others ascribe such importance to something you know you’re just renting for a while.”

I want you to separate these women:

The woman you can tolerate listening to ONLY if you can see her face.

And the woman you can listen to regardless of seeing her or not.

Why?

Because the first one will die soon; the second one will live forever.

Look like a man; think like a woman.

Your fellow-man approaches that phrase the other way around:

They are the only male student at a all-girl-school with the teachers being ALL men.

Find a woman that invests more in her forever mind than her dying looks.

You can learn something from women if you close your eyes and open your ears.

Futuristically yours,

Har+new

P.S. Stop looking at that picture!