What is the one positive about Betty & Co. moving in? You know how life will be if you lived with them full-time. Remember it’s only been 6 months. Believe it or not. But imagine years. Years of getting swords pulled out on you! Years of putting up with Betty’s attitude! Years of arguing with Jalisha and Christina’s baby daddies! Years of babies crying and disturbing you from working! Years of disagreements, fights, and petty squabbles! Years of paranoia surrounding someone touching and stealing your possessions! YEARS! If you take anything away from these past six months, let it be appreciation for your grandma taking you in when you was a baby and raising you. You are the son she never had!
Clutter surrounds you in every aspect of your life. From your crazy unorganized scattered thoughts to your crazy and disturbingly unorganized personal quarters. You have begun to take notice of how your clutter hinders you. You stand there shocked because you never considered it cluttered before, but more as a “convenient personal expression.” Man, you’ve got quite a bit of it and made great use of it too. You sit and ponder that now, and want to stop sitting. You get up, look around, move some stuff and sit back down one hour later, look up, things look the same. That is not removing clutter, it’s called moving stuff around. You have a goal, but can’t seem to get things done as fast as you should. What’s the problem? Well let’s sit back and take a look. You are still developing your own sense of organization and time management without having any previous understanding (consistent application) of these two increasingly vital aspects. You notice how behind you must seem to others, well sorry if they feel that way but that’s EXACTLY WHY you have work to do. Free time has come to you in abundance and everyone is looking forward to seeing more of you. Where are you? Researching those random questions about your new interest on the net? No, maybe this time you decided to exercise the rest of the day instead of tackle the mass of clutter in your life. Girl, YOU HAVE GOT TO GET IT TOGETHER! What you are doing is running in a circle. You say, “I have to get everything together”…”I’m working on it,” but are you really? Do you consistently put forth an effort to make the needed changes before anything else? At the end of EVERYDAY do you feel like you have taken two steps forward? Sorry, but I’m not very convinced when you say “umm…” so I have to interject. Your problem now is time management. You have things that are TOP PRIORITY and are first; then you have things that are HOBBIES nonetheless and are second. You need to start following this order! This is a key feature of mental organization. It is up to you how you’re going to spend your 24 hours. You have made your plans, so stick to them! So you started waking up early and looking to the “to-do” list, and that’s great! But what good is it when you have priorities to knock out and decide to go draw or work out instead? WTF?! That is not even smart Shae, not even sometimes. Yes its creative, yes its fun, but hey guess what, you can’t have fun just yet remember; it’s on that second list. At the end of the day, you still have to sit and tally those bananas. Tomorrow you will have more work to do because YOU DID NOT FOLLOW THROUGH with a priority. You will also have to disappoint those waiting on you to get it together. You could stay stuck in your current cycle, not heed this warning and see what happens, but I’m sure you won’t do that. You’re a smart girl. Sometimes you just need to stop, listen to me, and be reminded of your priorities. Remain consistent in removing that clutter and then we can move on down the list.
Good things come to those who wait. And that is the problem. Because you know something good awards you for your patience, you develop the impatient desire of an eager beaver. If good things come to those who wait, the reverse is equal: Only bad things can come to those who are impatient. So, the trick, is to play The Waiting Game. You play The Waiting Game when you think the opposite of the phrase: Only bad things can come to those who wait. The next time you put yourself in a position testing your patience, think negative of the response, don’t expect nothing in return, then take your mind off the process of waiting with a nice distraction. Then when you are finally rewarded you will be pleasantly surprised.
Because I am the future, foresight is the main “cheat” available to you.
The following will establish your foundation.
First. Learn to live with regrets. Not without. To regret is to learn something new. What you don’t know, learn about; what you do know, learn more about. Regret only cheats you when you beat yourself up over your research skills and when you try the impossible: change the past. Regret aids foresight because the past guides it. History repeats itself.
Second. Learn how to play chess. The best way to improve your ability to think ahead is to practice thinking ahead. Chess strategy consists of setting and achieving long-term goals during the game. Players take a chess approach to life too.
Third. Murphy’s Law. Anything that can go wrong will go wrong. Read and assimilate Law 29 in The 48 Laws of Power. Your transgression was not seeing it 3 hours away. You should’ve envisioned and planned your reaction to every possible worse case scenario inspired by Betty & Co. Because you didn’t put your reaction under control, you was left to improvise. Five disagreements since you have been back; three of those had the potential for death or prison. Death or prison. DO NOT DIM ME! Now you have hindsight bias, shaking your head and saying, “I knew this was gone happen.” WELL, WHY THE HELL YOU LET IT HAPPEN?!
Your observance is the milestone of 30k. Your money is the root of evil. And that evil is a job you hated. So, if you let what you start with waste away, you will be right back in another job you hate. Let that motivate you! You are an ENTREPRENEUR! Nothing else! You didn’t know at the time but now you know why you consistently saved. So, the future you is telling the present you to THANK the past you. You are a lot closer to two billion with 30k than you are being broke. Your first 100k will be a bitch so work dog-gone hard, man. You’ve been stuck on 30k for too damn long. Since you don’t have income coming in, what you built can be easily demolished by little things such as food, bills, hygiene items, unexpected expenses, etc. Remember: It’s better to be in a by-choice situation than a by-force one. The world is yours!
What’s the smartest thing you have heard Junior from My Wife & Kids say? This shouldn’t be difficult because he doesn’t say a lot of intelligent things on the show. But what’s a quotable? When Michael asked him did he want to play basketball, he said, “I don’t have no illusions about my ability to play basketball. If it’s not a part of my overall life goal, why pursue it?”
Every-time you procrastinate you are putting your dreams on hold and doing things irrelevant to your big picture goals: marrying Janelle Monae, getting on the list of billionaire college drop-outs, replacing the résumé with the Yeebizan. Why play video games? Why watch t.v? Why stay up on the phone all night? Now I know at times something irrelevant can indirectly inspire you to action. My Wife and Kids? Junior? But that is not by design. Go directly to the source.
Now I’m going to give you some suggestions to help you overcome your procrastination. Wake up extra early! You are a morning person. That’s when you are at your best! Your procrastination level increases with the PM. Work on your indecisiveness. As Napoleon Hill said, “Procrastination is the opposite of decision.” Procrastinating and being indecisive is the same thing. Lastly, I want you to see me. You are a very aware person. Every-time you feel like you’re procrastinating I want you to use that vivid imagination of yours to visualize me watching you. Because if my image cannot help you overcome procrastination I will fade away.
Just as I was preparing to write you a letter on the topic of Indecision, a decision had to be made: AT and iPhone or Virgin Mobile and Android? You chose the latter. Great decision all-around. Ultimately, you came to this decision by comparing your last AT&T bill to what your Virgin Mobile bill will be a month. Saving $54 a month isn’t bad, huh?
And that’s what I want you to continue to do. Every-time faced with a Choice A and Choice B decision, I want you to evaluate how both will impact your future. Because being stuck in another 2 year contract with AT&T when you don’t have no income coming in is a waste of money.
*Note* I want you to always make it a Choice A and Choice B decision even and especially when the choices are infinite. Like Robert Greene said, “Too many choices can cripple and paralyze you to the point where it can hinder your ability to choose.” And speaking of Robert Greene, disdain things you cannot have. Ignore them!
You can’t have the iPhone now because you are on this crazy adventure called entrepreneurism and you need to save, save, save.
Fittingly, we are on the topic of books and money and you made another brilliant decision at the suggestion of an author. You canceled your $16.95 monthly subscription to Equifax’s credit monitoring services. That’s applying what you read! Keep working!
This won’t be the last letter I write to you regarding Indecision. But you don’t only have me at your disposal for help with making decisions. Napoleon Hill has dedicated an entire chapter on Decision in Think and Grow Rich. You can read articles and M.I.T’s on Brian Kim’s website. You can read Indecision quotes on Brainy Quotes. One of my favorite quotes on there is from Maimonides, “The risk of a wrong decision is preferable to the terror of indecision.” And lastly, learn to laugh at yourself. Don’t take your indecision seriously. It’s temporary! You will conquer it!